« I made up my mind: I quit smoking! » Great, but what if your partner does not want to follow your challenge and continues to smoke? It seems hopeless. Kwit gives you some advices to quit tobacco together with your partner and for good.
January 9, 2019
When two people in a couple smoke and one of them would like to abandon cigarettes, but not without the partner, it is not easy. There are indeed situations where addiction to tobacco takes too much space in the conjugal life, becoming unbearable. So if both are determined to quit, the challenge will be a little easier to overcome. However, if one of them is not ready for this cessation, it becomes more difficult. Let us take a look at how to convince your partner to quit smoking.
A person's reasons for quitting cigarette can be very diverse. It can be a financial decision, a will not to be dependent anymore, to prevent problems regarding sexuality and/or fertility, the fear of having a serious disease, the will to protect a baby to be born for young parents expecting a child, etc… Of course, one may put forward one or several reasons to stop smoking. Within the couple, the one willing to convince the other should first of all explain his or her reasons.
Then, it is also necessary to share these reasons with the other in a way that he or she can understand them and even appropriate these motivations. Indeed, the aim is not to impose, but to convince.
Once you have decided for yourself to stop smoking, you should identify three arguments to convince your partner why he or she should now also abandon cigarettes.
More generally, the one taking the decision to stop often wants their children — if they have any — not to be exposed to second-hand smoking from the smoking partner. The smoker would, moreover, be a poor example to the children, who could imitate their parents and themselves become smokers.Eventually, these rational arguments concerning your partner, the couple and the children should convince some to follow you in your effort to stop smoking.
Some smokers are so addicted and enjoy smoking so much that rational arguments will not impact them at all. Convincing thus becomes even more difficult, so you should explore new paths.
In this static situation, you should first define non-smoking spaces and moments. In such a situation, you should obtain that the family home be declared non-smoker. This point should be non-negotiable and respected, considering the right of everyone in the house. If it still does not work, don't give up and let time do its work. Your partner will give up tobacco one day or another. To end with, follow the usual advice for cessation.
Here are some tips to cope with his addiction, which will help you convince your spouse
In the end, if you, as part of a couple, stop smoking, you will need to find a new balance in your conjugal life. This adventure together with your partner is a great challenge for the stability and the physical and mental health of the whole family.
Quitting smoking as a couple is a challenge to take up for positive effects on everybody.